January 8th, 2009
So me and my wife are both 28 years old. We've been married for about 8 months now and our sex life is really missing, which is so odd at our young age. We had great sex before we got married, but it just seems like the spark isn't there anymore.
It's not that one of us aren't interested in having sex, but we're both just sort of not into it as much anymore and we have tried many different things. I love my wife and I still find her really attractive, but I don't know...what's going on here? You got married.
Once you've caught the bus, why keep running?It happens in a marriage. It is not easy just remember to communicate. Marriage is hard work. Do something nice for her, something unexpected, that should set the mood.It's normal for your sex life to change over time.....but that doesn't mean it won't change back either!
I've been married for 8 years, and over that time, sometimes we have little droughts, and sometimes we are at it like bunnies......don't let it worry you!
You are probably both tired and distracted by other things, work, house, etc......
Make sure you make time for each other, to have a good conversation and a feed regularly (like a date) without the pressure of sex looming...... I'm sure it will just happen! Sometimes if you over analyse stuff it becomes an elephant in the room!
Don't stress....so long as you love each other, it'll be ok!I've been married for 4 years and the sex immediately became less interesting as other pursuits took over (finances, kids, etc.)--the relationship now has a constant dull in that department with fleeting lapses back into the sex-crazed couple we used to be. I've just accepted that things will spike in the future when we have these lulls and been happy knowing that I have a best friend and we'll be on this up and down roller-coaster forever (a lot of times the lull gives you an opportunity to experience the newness of the relationship all over again which keeps things interesting)Some medications may cause a decrease in libido, stress can be a contributing factor also. Good luckTry going out on a date or to a romantic dinner.
Think of how your sexual relationship was before and rev it up again. Think of some romantic things to do. For instance make a candle lit bubble bath or give her a massage. You know do something out of the ordinary.
I have been with my husband 5 years now and I always do something to show how much I care. He does too in his own way. your hairline is probably going further back...
better get some rogain if you still want to get laid,
or
stop sounding so soft over some *****,
demand it,
grab her and do her,
dont sob over not getting laid..yuckIt's called married life , you are "comfortable" with each other and are letting things slip into a no effort zone ..... as long as both of you are happy with the way things and your lives are going things will / are fine , the fact you asked here means you are not as happy with your sex life as you think you were before your marriage. Talk with her and find out if she is as happy with things if you can ... Hopefully you have a marriage that you both work at making each other happy and take joy in the others happiness, if that is the case maybe making an extra effort at making her happy she will do for you and the spark as you put it will come back. Good Luck My husband an i have been together 5 years now. We used to have sex every other day, then kinda fizzled too. We discussed it, cause we still find each other attractive (btw, he is 29, I am 24), and agree that we are secure in the relationship and just being there for one another, so it makes bonding through sex less important. and, when we do have sex it is more fun or meaningful after a few days. Hope your marriage continues to be good.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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