March 18th, 2010
Just because your son or daughter turns 18, they can do whatever they want because they are an adult? this is how a lot of parents look at it, and I think it is wrong. Just because your son or daughter is 18, would you let them go on a trip with their boyfriend or girlfriend and other couples to a place for 1 week? Please tell me your opinions, and state if you are male or female.I have a 15 year old daughter. I am female. I agree with the "My house, My rules" theory. They don't have to like it. As a matter of fact, I hope they don't. They can move and start paying their own bills BUT Hopefully they will just decide to move into a dorm and go to college. :)I am a female, my husband will agree with what I am about to say. As long as my child or any one lives under my roof then certain rules are expected to be followed. I even made my mom follow the rules when she lived with us. Just because they are 18 doesn't mean they don't need some guidance. I know you have to let go and let them make mistakes but under my roof there are still rules.Male.
I've been a single father for 14 years.I have a daughter that just turned 18.My responsibility's as a parent is to guide,direct & prepare my children for adulthood.I raised my children to be responsible & independent.At the dangerous age of 18 all I can do is advise her on the subject & remind her of the consequences of poor decision making.Life is an experience good & bad.You can't protect your child from life.You sound like a pr*ck. I dont have kids but if i did and they lived with me I would have no problem letting them go on a week long trip with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Whats wrong with that? why dont you think an 18 year old should be able to go on a trip with their partner.Hi-I'm a mom, but I was also once 18. The rule in my home is, as long as you live in my home, my rules will be followed, no matter how old you are. I think the situation of going away for a week on vacation would depend on the child. At 18, they should be away on their own at college, right? So what would the difference be? The hope is that by 18 you have raised your child to make the right decisions and the understanding that as a legal adult they will have to live with the consequences of their decisions. No. Usually by that age they will listen to their parents a little more. I wouldn't let my 18 yr old go on a one week trip or an overnight trip with a boy or even a girl. When they go to college they have more freedom and opportunities to do something like this but they would have to sneak because I wouldn't support it.I have a son who is almost 20 and from the time he turned 18 he thought he could run all over us, and do whatever he chose- including not helping around the house- and by the way, he had no job, and decided not to go to school. He moved out because of these rules. By the way, until they begin pulling some weight and helping around the house, you still have authority over them.You are somewhat right. Just because they are 18 doesn't mean they can run wild but it is okay for them to go out with a boyfriend or girlfriend for a week Just ask yourself whether or not you trust him/her not to do anything stupid. Since you said other couples, I would think better of it because they are in a group. Remember at 18 it is crucial that they find themselves before it is to late. Time alone may do them some good.my daughter is gonna be 17 in January, i feel that if they choose to live in my home then what ever age they are they will have live under my rules, as for the trip if my daughter was a good girl and did what she had to like good grades in school or keeping a job and paying for her trip then yes i would, she's not alone she's with a group, i would make sure that she was really going with a group. with kids you always have to do your own investigating. they have a good way of making stuff sound good.Female
Yes-if you choose to do otherwise and say they can't go and force them not to go, I'm guessing you could get in trouble for holding them hostage.You don't get to "let" an 18 year old do anything. They are an adult, they can do whatever you like. All you can do is refuse to give them money or see them. But you can't stop them doing ANYTHING.
Not your call any more. They can go live with their boyfriend or girlfriend and other couples in a place PERMANENTLY.My mom thinks being 18 means we have to take care of her, give her our money, and clean her house or she gets to kick us out on the street.I am a female parent of a son. When you are 18 there is nothing us parents can do. We can kick you out since you are an adult but I would never do my child like that.You can't control your kids forever, and yes I would allow this at 18 maybe even 17. At that age they are old enough to make their own decisions and deal with any mistakes they make. Really how does it affect you if your 18 year old goes away? It doesn't, they are an adult.Female my question to you is if they are old enough to go to a University why can't they spend the week with their bf/gf? Also they're an adult they don't need permission to do anything. I'm a young adult living under my parents roof and there are no rules; they respect that I'm an adult and don't baby me. No wonder our society is so messed up, it's because parents try to control their "little babies" until their thirty.Depends where u are.. if your in the U.S you wont get much freedom at 18 and i understand that but in places like Australia where at 18 u can legally drink its fine to go away with your bf or gf etc..
it really also depends if your living at home with your parent or your living on your own supporting yourself or if your still at skool or not...
theres alot of variables...I am A mom.. My kids are still very young but..
My husband and I agree 18 or not if they live in our house and We are supporting them Then Its our rules.. (and that would mean no couples get away)
If they are 18 and living away from home then All I can do Is hope we have done our job well enough that they will choose to make the right decisions.no#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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